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My partner has stage 4 cancer and has decided to go home to her family for her last few months. Hopefully treatment will go well, but I’ve been told no one survives what she has.

Her dad has said a couple of things that have made me concerned for her.

I’m worried because she should not have to support him through this.

When we sold all her stuff a few months ago and she got a furnished apartment back home he said she should just ship her stuff. She said she was moving into a furnished apartment and didn’t want to put stuff in storage. He said yeah, but when she moves out of that place she’ll want her own stuff. There was silence and then something happened to change the subject.

And then at Christmas dinner he made some comment about next Christmas.

I’m not close with him. She and I met in 2022 and fell in love and we planned to go to both of our families’ Christmases together (conveniently only an hour apart - though across the country from us), and meet both families at that time prior to moving in together in the summer.

I’m concerned he’s deeply in the “denial” stage of grief. I recognize it, I’ve experienced it too.

To be fair I have been dealing with the reality of her illness, the pain, the grief, selling her stuff, trying to access her pension, trying to recover her tuition from her phd program. Holding her while she cries in pain.

He’s been aware of it, but hasn’t been dealing with the day to day.

My issue now is if he can’t get his shit together and dig deep and literally stifle his tears when he’s with her and provide her with the physical and emotional care she needs right now then I think I’ll have to step in.

She goes in for a “gamma knife” tomorrow and her mom and dad are going to support her.

We’ll see how it goes.

I understand she’s daddy’s only little girl, and I understand this is by far the worst thing that will ever happen to him in his life. And me too. I hope.

But he needs to get his shit together now. He needs to gather his shit in. I will move there and take over if needed. I’d do anything to save her from harm and I won’t leave her to die cared for by strangers because her loved ones are too weak to be strong.

So. Dads. Any advice for me? I have never had a dad, so I don’t know your kind.

It's going to be a hard hit: we have five kids, all under age 10.

I need a thread with a decent amount of replies (150+ would be nice) and posts in that thread that have various amounts of lol tags on them to do some performance tuning on my .NET MAUI chatty app and there aren't any that are going to live very long today.

So if y'all could discuss HOAs, tipping, covid masking, or feek's hair below and throw some tags on stuff that'd be awesome!

Selfie Saturday!

Kids had a friend over so they were up late and still sleeping, so one of my cats can join me

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Nice hot day today, so putting together a trampoline for the kids, mowing the lawn, taking them to Dairy Queen, then late afternoon by the pool :D

Not much time for games but that's ok. I'll get back to FF7 on deck soon.

What's everyone up to today?

Post your faces and have a wonderful Saturday you amazing people!!!

❤️

RIP James Cann, what a career

https://i.imgur.com/uTDxkHs.jpg

https://i.imgur.com/SfCZ13R.jpg

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The peegies in observation of Memorial Day!

Chase: https://i.imgur.com/yduRrcQ.jpg
Tony Swiftbottom: https://i.imgur.com/OGpAcxV.jpg
Steve Carrotlord: https://i.imgur.com/wrKGDdc.jpg

RIP Ray Liotta

https://deadline.com/2022/05/ray-liotta-dies-67-goodfellas-1235033521/

Been at the ER with my wife since 2am PST. They suspect a ruptured bladder, but she's going in for a CT scan right now.

Helluva night. Good morning to all you east coasters.