A few weeks ago I heard Dolly Parton's 9 to 5. This immediately made me think of Deadpool 2 and laugh - I love how music is used in those movies. Since that time I went and watched both Deadpool movies and I've tried to get Dolly's 9 to 5 out of my head and I can't do it.
On Tuesday this week it was our web guy's anniversary and he got his wife flowers and he was having them delivered to her office. I told him big mistake - you do that yourself. You don't trust these flower guys. Sure enough, even though he paid for before noon delivery they were delivered at 5:20 PM and they were the wrong flowers. Rookie mistake.
Anyway, back to Dolly. I think it was on NPR's morning edition someone said something like women returning to the workforce are still finding it hard to take a 9 to 5 job. Well, the music started playing in my head and again I thought of Captain Deadpool and laughed and the damn song was stuck in my head again. To get it out I figured I would just pull up the Deadpool 2 soundtrack on Apple Music and sure enough some kind soul has a playlist of all the songs from that movie and not just the OST songs on the "official" album.
FYI - A Ha's MTV Unplugged version of Take on Me is available on Apple Music. I love that song and I had no idea how much I needed the acoustic version of that song in my life. When it showed up in Deadpool 2 I was shocked at how emotional I was getting over a Deadpool movie.
But speaking of emotional - I've been trying to figure out for the last few years what the fuck is wrong with my arrested development. I find it nearly impossible to cry. I know this was a big 90s sitcom trope but I rarely can express my sadness and it is frustrating. This is especially true because movies can absolutely make me tear up. The end of Infinity War still gets me. There are certain moments in movies that just hit me hard -- like Deadpool 2. And it is incredibly frustrating that Deadpool 2 can make me tear up but real life sad shit doesn't.
So wednesday morning I'm at my office listening to the Deadpool 2 playlist when Peter Gabriel's In Your Eyes comes on. I know this song well, I've listened to it hundreds if not thousands of times. But for some reason this time I was listening closely and thinking about the lyrics and what is being said. And in the 21+ years I've been with my wife I've never, ever missed her more than I did in that moment. And I started crying. Hard. Snot nose, soaked face crying whilst standing at my desk working. I needed to see my wife, hug my wife, and kiss my wife right then and there. And I mean it - I needed to do that. I suspect that because I was in the middle of working and I just kind of slipped into paying attention to the lyrics all of my defensive mechanisms that have been built up over the years were bypassed and not ready. So the song was able to just hit a raw nerve in a way I'm not used to having my nerves hit.
Luckily, I knew where she was. The kids had their annual Dr's appointment just up the road. So I leave the office, go to the grocery store and buy a bouquet of flowers, drive to the Doctor's office, park and wait. And a few minutes later when they are walking out of the office I put In Your Eyes on the Tesla Boombox, give my wife her flowers, tell her I love her and give her a giant embrace and kiss in the middle of the parking lot. And I felt better. It's exactly what I needed. I needed to tell her how much I missed her that day, how much I loved her, and I just needed it.
It was all good after that. I still have Dolly Parton stuck in my head because that song has such a damn catchy opening beat.