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I wrote words on the internet again. This one kind of blew up unexpectedly. Hit #1 on r/programming and has over 40k views in basically 24 hours. Totally didn't see that coming. I've actually been sitting on the post since December since I wasn't sure if it was even worth posting. Anyhow, here it is if you're into that kind of thing.

https://blog.forrestthewoods.com/my-favorite-paradox-14fab39524da

Here's your problem, tough love style -

You're not in love with her.

You're in love with an idea. You're in love with a version of her. You're in love with a fantasy.

But you're not in love with the real person.

Actually, fucking scratch the "love" thing. You're not even in love. You're infatuated. I don't doubt that your intense affection for her is genuine, but it's not real love. Real love comes from knowing a person intimately. I don't mean intimacy as in she sucked your weener. I mean intimacy as in you've seen her at her fucking worst - when she's petty or despairing or cruel - and yet you still find a way to be together. When you recognize that she's not fucking perfect. She's not your angel. She's a human woman, and being with her is going to take some work. That's love. That's what a real relationship is like. It's not about putting some pirouetting pixie up on a pedestal. This isn't the fucking movies. Relationships are not "meant to be". They happen and succeed because two people with mutual affection and respect for each other decide to put in the effort to build a life together, and it's not always easy. And you know what? That's not what you have. You need to come to grips with that.

You're Joseph Gordon-Levitt's character in 500 Days of Summer - too wrapped up in your infatuation of who you think this woman is, and too wrapped up in the selfishness of how she makes you feel to notice that the relationship really isn't as substantial as you think it is.

I've been there. It sucks. I've had those long soul-searching nights where you constantly think "if only". I get it. But you can't do that. "If only" is a train that never comes. It already left a long time ago, and you're not going to be going anyplace if you just stand there on the platform hoping that it will come around again. It won't.

Disclaimer: the above is largely speculative and could be complete bullshit, but I suspect it to be true based on what you're telling us. Take it with a grain of salt.

Just a heads up that the first Walking Dead game (by Telltale) is $6.24 at Steam for the rest of the day (it's not listed on the front sale page of Steam). The 400 Days DLC is $1.24.

It's a great interactive movie with excellent writing. The controls blow if you don't like WASD and they can't be remapped, but that's not a dealbreaker. If you don't love this game, the problem is you. There's no bullshit GFWL or worthless social clubs forced on you either.

This will be hit and run. I have stuff to do and this site is unusable with noscript now, and I hate using fucking IE.

i can't watch this really while at work, but its not funny, just sad. people being made fun of or made to cry and getting laughed at always bums me out, its fucked up. it's not even the videos, its threads like this full of guys joining in. isn't life fucking brutal enough without making people miserable for entertainment?

what it reminds me of is the way people feel when cheaters join into a multiplayer game. you get echoing choruses begging the person to leave, you get the other group of people who call them increasingly disgusting names thinking it will make the cheater leave, you get people actually leaving the game. the cheater is loving it all, its all attention, and the fact that they are ruining it for everyone else makes it even funnier and more fun for them. that's the same shit happening here, this girl is trying to make a living and its probably not the first time people called her fat or told her to lose weight or that she was ugly, she just wants to chat and make a few bucks but because she gets naked doing it she is a stupid slut whore who deserves to be degraded and humiliated.

which is more pathetic, the overweight or unattractive girl hanging out waiting for tips that will probably never come or the guys who make fun of them until they log off the internet for the night crying.

this shit belongs on 4chan, not here. at the very least mark this NWS because it is.

Hey guys, my White Elephant arrived from multisync!!! He sent me a whole bunch of awesome stuff. I have some photos and some words to show you what he gave me. This writeup is not work safe!!!

http://joshlyon.com/shackwe2011/

Thank you, multisync!!! You're the best :)

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Grief and dealing with it

What a weird club to be a part of. I'm trying to handle it as best as I can. And I know that that's all I can do for a while. Just simply getting up, making a coffee, getting showered and dressed... all seems 2x harder that it did before.

I'm not sleeping great. I'll take sleeping pills which sort of help, but really trying not to rely on them. I just asked for my GP to prescribe me some valium, because those seemed to do a lot better than sleeping pills. She did warn me about being dependent on them, so I'll be sure to tread carefully with that.

I started seeing a psychologist. Therapy was never something I did before. I always considered myself a "happy, cheery" person. Sure, life gets challenging, but never to the point where I needed to see someone professional to talk about dealing with them. I've only had a few sessions so far, but I'm committed to continuing to see it through and seeing if it'll impact my life and help me get through this difficult time.

Since the day my husband passed, I haven't been alone at our place. I've always had friends or family staying here. But the last of my family just went back to the US, and for the first time, I'm alone in our place, in this country. I've never not lived here without him. I haven't lived on my own since college! People have asked if I'm moving back to the US and to be honest, it's hard to make that decision. I'm so entangled with life here now - financially, socially... it's not easy to step away from it all.

Anyway, apologies for this sudden post. I feel like now that I'm alone, I'm trying to grab on to any one or community for support. In saying that, I want to say a huge THANK YOU to this community, for expressing their thoughts and condolences. I want to give you all a big virtual hug.

Oh, and if someone can recommend a good easy-going game (PS5/Switch) to start, that would be great. I just finished Astro Bot and that was super pleasant to play through. I just wish my husband was beside me to watch me play :(

There have been so many layoffs in the games industry lately, and I hate it. It’s a scary time to be a game dev.

We had a discussion at work today, and we were encouraged to reach out to our social networks and see if anyone we know is affected and if we can help.

I may be a bit of a lurker, but this is my only social network. I’ve been coming here for about as long as I can remember. I love this place with all my heart, always will.

Anyways, I work at IO Interactive. We make the HITMAN games, and we’re working hard on Project 007 and Project Fantasy. We are hiring across all five of our studios and we have over 50 available positions.

We offer competitive relocation packages, so if you or anyone you know has been affected by any of these terrible layoffs, and you want to come work in Brighton, Barcelona, Copenhagen, Istanbul, or Malmö, check out this LinkedIn post: https://www.linkedin.com/feed/update/urn:li:activity:7168282147072471040

Apologies if this kind of post isn’t allowed!

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